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8 Common Sex Problems And How To Solve Them

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The next time you’re standing in line at the grocery store, check out the glossy headlines of the women’s magazines that line the stands: “What Men Hate Most in Bed” or “What He Wants You to Know, but Will Never Say.” Men’s magazines echo the same theme: “What You Should Never Say to a Woman in Bed,” “Why She Won’t Have Sex With You.” We all want to know: what are my partner’s sexual complaints? What can I do about them?

The truth is, both men and women tend to complain about the same things when it comes to sex, particularly when they’re in a long-term relationship. Here are eight of the most common complaints I hear from couples, along with suggestions to turn a partner’s frown upside down.

1. Laziness.

If your partner has stopped doing his or her share between the sheets, first try a subtle approach. Playfully lament how much you miss his or her trademark move in bed, whether it’s a turn, twist, or tweak. A friendly reminder that it takes two to tango may be all that’s required. If that doesn’t work, go for a more straightforward approach. Gently tell your partner that you’ve noticed he or she doesn’t show the same initiative and ask why. If no explanation is forthcoming (and if you’re certain there are no medical issues), be honest about how his or her lack of enthusiasm in bed is taking the fun out of sex for you, too. If your partner is invested in your relationship, he or she will step up to the passion plate. Meanwhile, it may be a good time to review your own rambunctiousness. A lazy partner isn’t worth the effort, in or out of bed.

2. Boredom.

Can you set your watch to when he’ll turn you over? Do you see her kiss coming a mile away? Long-term sex with the same person can eventually become predictable. And while there’s something comforting about sexual familiarity, it can breed contempt if it’s the only dish on the menu. To break out of bedroom boredom, experiment with different positions, focus on improving your sexual skills, or surprise your partner by telling him or her an erotic fantasy or dirty dream to kick-start your sexual imaginations. Change the way you behave in bed. If you’re usually quiet, wake up the neighbors. If you’re usually vocal, tone it down. If you’re typically slow and steady, pick up the pace. For added buzz, hide a sex toy under your partner’s pillow, whether it’s a high-tech vibrator, a feather tickler or a warming/cooling lubricant.

3. Ignoring the Connection between Emotional and Physical Intimacy.

Theway a couple treats each other outside of the bedroom has a direct effect on the quality of their love life. Nasty, nagging and negative partners rarely enjoy five-star sex. Strengthen your relationship by improving communication, prioritizing couple time, making your partner feel appreciated, and approaching conflict with humility, an open-mind and a team-player mentality. Replace the criticism or contempt in your voice with a respectful, affectionate tone. Do the “little things” that you know will help your partner have a happier day. It’s your best bet for a hotter night.

4. Electronic Interlopers.

Laptops, tablets, iProducts and smartphones have a way of sneaking into the bedroom and e-undermining a couple’s private downtime. When you reply to a text or update your Facebook status instead of snuggling your sweetheart, you inadvertently send the message that your partner is not as interesting or important as the person on the other end of whatever gadget is in your hand. Make your bedroom a technology-free zone. Charge your cell phone on the kitchen counter and leave your laptop in the living room. Reclaim your bedroom for the two of you.

5. A Negative Body Image. 

Body changes are inevitable in long-term relationships. We get pregnant and give birth. We age. We gain weight and lose our hair. Health problems and everyday stress also take their toll on the body. Our fitness levels go up and down. These changes can make couples self-conscious about their bodies, prompting them to cover up more and have sex less. To improve body image, couples should share a healthy lifestyle. As importantly, they should continue to compliment each other’s appearance and desirability. Beauty truly is in the eye of the beholder.

6. Disparate Sex Drives.

If you’re the one with a naturally higher sex drive, don’t pester your partner, whine when you don’t get it, criticize their lower drive or threaten to get sex elsewhere. Act like a grown-up. If your drive is exceptionally high, some “alone time” can take the pressure off your partner. If you’re the one with the lower drive, recognize that there is a connection between physical and emotional intimacy, and that your partner’s reasonable and respectful requests for sex are important to your bond as a loving, long-term couple. There is no magic number. The key is balance.

7. Missing the Connection between Mental and Physical Arousal.

Most intimacy guides stress the importance of better techniques, new positions and sex toys, all things that make sex feel better. That’s fantastic, but it’s only half the equation. Couples should also focus on stimulating the largest sex organ — the brain. Sex is at its best when partners are both mentally and physically turned on.

8. Exhaustion.

Good old-fashioned fatigue is a leading bedroom complaint of today’s busy couples. To combat it, approach your bedtime routine as a team. Ask what you can do to help your partner power down without powering out. You can finish the supper dishes, put the kids to bed or give your partner some space to finish his or her work files. If your schedules are similar, you should be going to bed at the same time. Not only does it increase your chances of being intimate, it shows your partner that you’re in it together

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Signs That Your Relationship Is Going Down The Drain

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You have been so in love with your partner that your friends are envious, been so good to each other that argue less than compatriots. However, of late you don’t understand the turn taken by the relationship. According to experts, if your seeing signs such as these ones then consider your relationship done.

He or she is constantly annoyed of you
Your partner used to be very cheerful and enthusiastic spending time with you however not the case of late, he or she is very moody and it feels like he or she is angry with you but you don’t what you did wrong.

Limited communication

You used be that couple that told each other everything no matter the extent and magnitude, however, you feel neglected and ignored, your partner says less and would rather do something else rather than talk to you, he or she is always distracted when your talking to them and it feels forced.

Escalating arguments

According to experts, arguments are the most healthy way to solve issues and in fact it’s deemed natural for couples to argue and fight, however, of late arguments and fights are rather prevalent and quickly turn physical even violent that even minor issues could escalate into the biggest fight.

You think he or she is cheating.

You trusted your partner 100% and quickly laughed off any rumors in fact any one who knew you as a couple could downgrade the rumors. However, it’s not the case any more, rumors are so often, he or she has become very secretive midnight calls, over passworded phone is and he or she is always asking you for privacy.

He or she avoids skin ship

Way back, you were the most envied couple as you had episodes of PDIs (Public display of Intimacy) kissing in club, walking hand in hand and couldn’t seem to keep each others hands off each other however, that doesn’t happen any more, it seems like he or she is avoiding skinship, touches you less and less and it feels like its uncomfortable.

No sex

This is a deal breaker, u haven’t had sex in like forever yet way back, you had sex every time you were behind closed doors. Yes, there is some healthy sexual tension in every relationship. However, you feel it’s not the case, he or she is always giving excuses and they can’t seem to end.

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How Miss Karamoja Ayen Is Fighting To Take Karamojong Kids Back Home

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By Samuel Frencha

Miss Tourism Karamoja 2018, Emily Ayen, over the weekend gave back to the street kids staying in Katwe Surbub as part of her move to lure them back to Karamoja.

In partnership with ‘Bring A Smile’ a non governmental charity agency created by youth from different parts of the country, she managed to offer some food stuff, sanitary pads and other basic materials to the young kids plus participating in general cleanliness activities.

Miss Karamoja Emily Ayen (middle) during her charity in Katwe

The reigning Miss Tourism Karamoja, who hails from war torn apart Northern Uganda, says the goal of this initiative is to have a smiling generation of young ladies achieve their dreams amidst the limited resources.

“We  want to be a rising sun on the landscape of a place we call home and take good care of it by making people smile within and else where”Ayen asserted.

Emily, who deeply interacted with some of the kids unfolded that some of them have been victims of child trafficking and have found themselves with no choice but to resort to begging and commercial prostitution as a way of raising income to help their families.

And she purports that through charity, a difference can be made.

I believe that giving charity to the Karamojongs back home will give them no reason to come to the city to beg and also those in the city when they see people at home receiving more than what we offered them will be motivated to go back home.

In the long run, i also want to support the young ladies to take part in craft making. Karamoja beads are so beautiful that if they can make many of them, they will not only earn a living but will also become occupied to think of commercial sex as an option” – Ayen said.

She urged for support from well wishers towards her fundraising activities which she reckons are aimed at changing lives of these kids.

For instance this Easter, we intend to have a “Tour Karamoja Educate A Child Trip” aimed at fundraising tuition for the children we interacted with and are willing to go back to school. We also intend to conduct a cleaning campaign too because health is paramount and above all we want to put and end to the trafficking of our people for labour and sex that has become rampant” – She said.

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Pastor Lukau Admits Resurection Of Dead Man Was Stage Managed

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Controversial South African preacher Alph Lukau has confessed that the resurrection of a dead man was stage managed.

Alph Lukau addressed his Alleluia International Ministries church for the first time on Sunday since a video emerged of a man being resurrected and sitting up in a coffin.

According to Eyewitness News, Lukau told his congregation that miracles are not appreciated.

“When we speak about miracles, we are talking about something that has gone beyond the rationalizations of what we accept as norms.”

Pastor Lukau regretted the whole ordeal in an interview with Power FM’s Drive host, Thabiso Tema.

“Before entering the premises of the church, the coffin began to shake, meaning the person was alive. I am really sorry for the misrepresentation of facts, the man was not dead and has never been in the mortuary as we earlier said,” Mr. Lukau explained.

At the time when the scandalous resurrection occurred, Lukau said he was on his routine duty of preaching the gospel like any other Sunday when he was interrupted and told that a dead man in a coffin was brought to the church.

“We are the house of God and I’m just a pastor serving in the house of the Lord. But I am sorry that we didn’t tell people the truth in the first place,” he added.

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